Do you realise you, and all the people you know, play games? All the time? Sexual games, marital games, complex games that you’re not even aware of as you go about your usual life? You might play games like ‘Alcoholic’ or ‘The Frigid Woman' at weekends, or perhaps 'Ain't it awful' or ‘Kick me’ while you’re at work. First published in the 1960s and recognized as a classic work of its kind by professionals, the bestselling ‘Games People Play’ is also an accessible and fascinating read. It is a wise, original, witty and very sensible analysis of the games we play in order to live with one another – and with ourselves.
Originally published in 1961, this book outlines a new, unified system of individual and social psychiatry that were introduced in the United States around that time with remarkable success in various hospitals and other psychiatric establishments. Essentially designed for group therapy, this approach is now used by institutions, group workers, and in private practice with neurotics, psychotics, sexual psychopaths, psychosomatic cases, and adolescents. Transactional analysis begins its program by initiating the individual patients into the theory upon which the treatment is based. First attaining a measure of self-knowledge through private sessions with the analyst, the patient then meets with other patients in group therapy, participating in a series of personally meaningful relation-ships in which he becomes increasingly aware of the cause and nature of his illness, preparing at the same time to overcome it. “A comprehensive method of treatment that has no precedent in its concreteness of structure without at the same time diminishing the dynamic quality of the treatment....No one to my knowledge has presented such a new approach.”—Dr. Milton Schwebel, Professor of Education, New York University
When Claude Steiner and the late Eric Berne developed the theory of Transactional Analysis, their basic belief that people were “born princes and princess, until their parents turned them into frogs” countered the fundamental principle of psychiatry which asserts that emotional and mental distress comes from within. This theory was further developed in Steiner’s book Games Alcoholics Play. Dr. Berne, in What Do You Say After You Say Hello?, acknowledged Steiner’s important role in the analysis of “life scripts” which we choose at an early age and which rule every detail of our lives until our death. In Scripts People Live, Steiner expands upon this belief to show that people are innately healthy but develop a pattern early in life based upon negative or positive influences of those around them. Thus children decide, however unconsciously, whether they will be happy or depressed, winners or failures, strong or dependent, and having decided, they spend the rest of their lives making the decision come true. For those who choose a negative script, the consequences can be disastrous unless they make a conscious decision to change. Steiner’s classic in psychological theory, with a new foreword by the author, offers a hopeful and practical analysis so that we all may rewrite our life scripts and lead more meaningful and fulfilling lives.
What Do You Say After You Say Hello? explains what makes the winners win, the losers lose, and the in-betweens so boring... In it, Dr Eric Berne reveals how everyone's life follows a predetermined script - a script they compose for themselves during early childhood. The script may be a sad one, it may be a successful one; it decides how a person will relate to his colleagues, what sort of person he will marry, how many children he will have, and even what sort of bed he will die in... What Do You Say After You Say Hello? demonstrates how each life script gets written, how it works and, more important, how anyone can improvise or change his script to make a happy ending...
If fewer things in life are more common than talented people who are unsuccessful, it is equally true that fewer things in life are more common than otherwise healthy people making themselves miserable. Combining widely-accepted concepts of human behavior with elements from Rational Emotive Therapy, Positive Psychology, Emotional Intelligence, and most prominently Transactional Analysis, Rethinking Everything explores in immediately understandable terms why we act as we do, how we frequently undermine our relationships, why we often cripple our potential, and how we can take greater control of our lives. By providing the language, real-life examples, and behavioral explanations to label, recognize, and examine dysfunctional conduct, Rethinking Everything empowers an awareness-inspired journey towards self-improvement. To that end, the expectation is not for readers of this book to save the world, but rather for those internalizing its insights to rethink everything in saving their own more personal universe.
The most lucid account of the patterns of problem drinkers ever set down in a book! Drawing on soundly tested theories of transactional behavior, Dr. Steiner describes the three distinct types of alcoholics -- Drunk and Proud, Lush and Wino -- and their games, scripts and rackets: Debtor... Kick... Cops and robbers... Plastic Woman... Captain Marvel...Ain't it awful... Schlemiel... Look how hard I've tried... and others. His approach is the single most useful tool for dealing with alcoholism since A.A. and the Twelve Steps, and offers the first real help -- and hope -- for problem drinkers and their families. From the Paperback edition.
This thoroughly revised edition of Transactional Analysis Counselling introduces the theory and practice of TA - which integrates cognitive behavioural and psychodynamic theories within a humanistic philosophy - from a unique relational perspective. While most TA books focus on one field, this approach demonstrates the benefits of TA across a wide variety of helping settings, business and management, education and coaching as well as counselling. Case studies from a variety of contexts bring TA to life for trainees in any of these disciplines, and the accessible, engaging writing style makes difficult concepts understandable for undergraduates and postgraduates alike. Bringing their book into the twenty-first century, expert authors Phil Lapworth and Charlotte Sills provide a brief history of TA followed by individual chapters on the concepts and techniques used. Each chapter is devoted to one concept and includes a detailed definition and description, and suggestions for application in practice. Exercises for student, practitioner and client, boxed summaries, diagrams, checklists and sources of further reading make this the ideal text for use in training. This book is an essential companion for those embarking on specialist TA courses or studying TA as part of wider training, while those who want simply to integrate TA into their work with people can dip into it as suits their needs.
PLEASE NOTE: This is a companion to Eric Berne’s, M.D. Games People Play and NOT the original book. Preview: Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis (1964) by Eric Berne explores dysfunctional social behavior, which he describes as games people play in their interactions with each other. Games are comprised of a series of transactions beyond simple rituals, social pastimes, and friendly conversation…. Inside this companion to the book: · Overview of the Book · Insights from the Book · Important People · Author's Style and Perspective · Intended Audience About the Author: With Instaread, you can get the notes and insights from a book in 15 minutes or less. Visit our website at instaread.co.
`This is an excellent book. Whilst specifically aimed at the "newer counsellor", this book contains much that will be of interest to experienced practitioners both within and outside of TA... this book is an excellent guide to implementing TA techniques and treatment planning particularly from a process model perspective. It incorporates many new ideas which will make it refreshing and inspiring for both new and experienced counsellors and psychotherapists' - ITA News This concise workbook provides 30 practical suggestions to help practising counsellors develop and enhance their Transactional Analysis (TA) counselling skills. After a brief introductory section that summarizes the essentials of TA theory and technique, the book covers crucial aspects of best practice in current TA, many of them unavailable in book form until now. Presenting new and wide-ranging material, each of the 30 suggestions - which are supported by useful case examples - encourages both experienced and trainee counsellors to think carefully about their work and how it can be made even more effective. Ian Stewart provides much-needed practical guidance to such key areas as contract-making, time-frames and the Process Model.
Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our lives we adopt a "position" about ourselves and others that determines how we feel about everything we do. And for a huge portion of the population, that position is "I'm Not OK -- You're OK." This negative "life position," shared by successful and unsuccessful people alike, contaminates our rational Adult capabilities, leaving us vulnerable to inappropriate emotional reactions of our Child and uncritically learned behavior programmed into our Parent. By exploring the structure of our personalities and understanding old decisions, Harris believes we can find the freedom to change our lives.
A powerful new crime thriller: Thirteen-month-old Lily Hamilton is abducted from Ayr beach in Scotland while her parents are just yards away. Three days later the distraught father turns up at private investigator Charlie Cameron's office. Mark Hamilton believes he knows who has stolen his daughter. And why. Against his better judgment Charlie gets involved In the case and when more bodies are discovered the awful truth dawns: there is a serial killer whose work has gone undetected for decades. Is baby Lily the latest victim of a madman? For Charlie it's too late, he can't let go. His demons won't let him. 'A major new force in British crime fiction.'
Ian Stewart has done an outstanding job of presenting a comprehensive overview of Eric Berne, his life, his philosophy and his significant contributions to the fields of personality and psychotherapy... Stewart has made a significant and unique contribution to the literature of transactional analysis. This book deserves reading by all transactional analysts' - "Transactional Analysis Journal " Eric Berne is probably still best known as the author of the bestselling Games People Play, yet his professional writings on transactional analysis fill several books and his practice of psychotherapy was distilled from more than thirty years' experience of work with clients. Ian Stewart draws Berne's ideas together in a unique and accessible form and concludes that Berne emerges not only as a skilled communicator but also as a profound thinker who offers a major contribution to counselling and psychotherapy this century.
You are a mind reader, born with an extraordinary ability to understand what others think, feel, believe, want, and know. It’s a sixth sense you use every day, in every personal and professional relationship you have. At its best, this ability allows you to achieve the most important goal in almost any life: connecting, deeply and intimately and honestly, to other human beings. At its worst, it is a source of misunderstanding and unnecessary conflict, leading to damaged relationships and broken dreams. How good are you at knowing the minds of others? How well can you guess what others think of you, know who really likes you, or tell when someone is lying? How well do you really understand the minds of those closest to you, from your spouse to your kids to your best friends? Do you really know what your coworkers, employees, competitors, or clients want? In this illuminating exploration of one of the great mysteries of the human mind, University of Chicago psychologist Nicholas Epley introduces us to what scientists have learned about our ability to understand the most complicated puzzle on the planet—other people—and the surprising mistakes we so routinely make. Why are we sometimes blind to the minds of others, treating them like objects or animals? Why do we sometimes talk to our cars, or the stars, as if there is a mind that can hear us? Why do we so routinely believe that others think, feel, and want what we do when, in fact, they do not? And why do we believe we understand our spouses, family, and friends so much better than we actually do? Mindwise will not turn other people into open books, but it will give you the wisdom to revolutionize how you think about them—and yourself. From the Hardcover edition.